There is probably little Tim Ring can do, except to change his software to use TCP for the over the internet part.
We can get you the software easily enough, we host it here on RPUG as well (not the latest version yet, I have to write a new offline installer for it) but you'll still face the same connection issue.
It would be helpful to know a little more about your internet setup; is your internet connection completely wireless or just wireless between your router and your computer (ie, the house phone line brings in the internet)? If it's the latter you can also try plugging the computer into the router with a network cable; for some reason Rings software isn't overly fond of wireless connections.
I've done a little research and have come up inconclusive of whether Verizon blocks UDP traffic or not, I've seen yes posts and no posts. My best suggestion right now is to get back onto Verizon, ask (politely) for a senior technician that actually knows something about their network and ask them "Do you block UDP traffic on port 80 for my setup (give your internet plan / the router you have etc). If they say yes then tell them Verizon is incompetent and they are just about to lose another customer. If they say no we don't block then explain to them you have software that updates a controller you use that communicates over the internet using UDP on port 80, and that the packets are not making it to the update server. Is there any settings I need to configure in the router etc.
- Tim